“The evening began innocently enough. [Ray] Rice, 27, and 26-year-old Janay celebrated Valentine’s Day at the Revel Casino Hotel in Atlantic City with two other couples, close friends who were a regular part of their social circle.
They had dinner and wine, then went to the casino’s main bar, The Social, where they split at least one bottle of Patron Tequila, Rice’s favorite liquor.
By 2 a.m., Ray and Janay were intoxicated and heatedly arguing as he followed her into a hotel elevator.
According to two sources, the couple fought about the guest list for their upcoming wedding as well as text messages Rice had received that night from a young woman, a Ravens employee.” ESPN source
Were the bartender and the Revel Casino at fault?
A basic question that hasn’t been mentioned: Who is responsible for serving drunk people more drinks?
Where I live, people get cut off and aren’t allowed to order any more drinks if they appear to be intoxicated.
Bad Idea! Serving Tequila to Drunk People
For me, knowing this much alcohol was involved, casts the whole dreadful episode in a different light.
It doesn’t make it OK by any stretch of the imagination, but it does add context.
Who was in their audience?
This unfortunate situation is like pulling a Mildred Pierce: DramaGuru Attack on yourself.
If you’re a student of DramaGuru reading this post, take a look at who was in the audience for this incident.
- Supportive: Who was on their side cheering for them? Before they were drunk, probably everyone.
Today’s Lesson: When you give up being responsible for your own behavior, so does everyone else
- Supportive: After they were drunk, no one was being supportive. Tolerating and handling the situation does not mean supportive. Everyone around them was getting paid to do whatever they were doing.
- Pretending: Bartender and waitress responsible for serving drinks: waiting to receive a good tip – why should they say anything?
- Neutral: Other friends they were drinking with? Probably just as intoxicated. No longer sober enough to be responsible for intervening.
- The Opponent: Hotel security – what happens in Vegas, stays in Vegas…doesn’t work for Atlantic City. The video found it’s way to TMZ instead of the NFL. Did TMZ purchase the video? Maybe the NFL didn’t want to pay for it?
The Revel Casino is now closed. Apparently, they were not profitable and had to close down. When you consider the audience, no one had any reason to protect Ray and Janay Rice from embarrassing themselves. That video became even more valuable.
“Both Revel and the Showboat closed over Labor Day weekend. Trump Plaza is closing Tuesday, and the Atlantic Club closed in January. Trump Entertainment Resorts filed for bankruptcy last week and threatened to close the Taj Mahal casino in November if it can’t cut its expenses.” source
TMZ has drawn so much attention to domestic violence in the NFL — that if you are a smart NFL player with a history of bad behavior — then, make that move and ban alcohol, etc. for the life of your NFL contract.
That’s what I call getting two steps ahead of a potential attack.
As a Bystander
If we could turn back the clock, I wonder what would have been different if a concerned waitress, bartender or manager took the risk to step in and say, “we’re cutting you off”. The place had security guards for protection as the message was delivered.
That might have prevented the elevator knock-out.
But now, in a silver lining kind of way, Ray Rice is an “anti-hero” for moving domestic violence to the top of the agenda for the NFL.
— Andrew Brandt (@adbrandt) September 20, 2014
Photo Credits: Patron tequila plus two limes