Gentle and Protective
Watching Kyla playing with a baby gorilla is cute and funny. But my heart feels sad for the gorilla. Because he (or she) has human-like features and the playful posturing looks so familiar, I feel sad for the animal in the cage.
This isn’t a “free the animals” rant. I think I’m just noticing something about how people persevere in the face of dealing with whatever or whomever they are confronted with.
People in difficult relationships persevere — just like the gorilla in his glass cage. They make the best of it and keep on going. Even though stuff happens everyday.
Glass serves as an effective boundary
The glass between them keeps both child and gorilla safe. Healthy boundaries are necessary. They serve to protect you, if and when people get weird, grumpy, suddenly angry or careless. Because it’s normal to express all kinds of emotions, it’s important to experience and savor these moments of gentleness and fun.
“Gorillas are extremely large animals and they can be aggressive when they feel that they or their families are in danger. The males are much larger than the females. Yet it is amazing to see these large animals be so kind and gentle towards the females and often their own offspring. They communicate with a variety of both verbal and non verbal methods.” source
New Tools for DramaGuru Players
DramaGuru Objective: interrupt the pattern, change the game by creating a game plan to see danger coming and get two steps ahead — or to get out of range as soon as you can (the “run away” strategy). Create safe space and stand there. When someone shows up and causes an uncomfortable ripple, you’ll be in action to protect and defend yourself.
- 100 Verbal Weapons Used in Real Life: pick one weapon off the list. Study how you use it against people. Study how people use it against you.
- Generate a CODE NAME for your situation. Pick a code name or do the quiz to help you figure out what sort of problem you’re dealing with. The code name will give you an objective place to stand while you work out the details and look for the patterns.
To play DramaGuru well, you need a cool head and a lot of patience — plus a tree-house or a fort — some kind of private place where you can evaluate and consider your responses. As you study your opponent, you’ll find ways to interrupt the bad behavior. When that happens, something new will be revealed to you.To strengthen your role as the protective Gorilla in your world, use 2 important tools for… Click To Tweet