No respect! Do you have trouble getting your friends to return items that you’ve lent to them? Here’s a super simple and absolutely brilliant way to remind yourself and your friends that you lent them something.
Get respect from friends and family
Take a photo of them holding the item or the money. Send it to them and ask them when they intend to return whatever it is they borrowed.
If you have enough photos to make an album, it’s time for you to call a halt to your lending out.
Ask yourself why you’re so willing to let people borrow your stuff. If it really doesn’t bother you, then there’s no problem.
Some people “lend” things with the expectation that they may never see the item again. But often, there’s a nagging concern that a lack of respect is present. If you have to continually ask for the item to be returned, your friendship might become strained.
If you want to clean up your relationships with friends who have borrowed things and not returned them, now is the time to be bold and just ask them to return what they borrowed. They will comply or they won’t, but at least you will know where you stand.
You don’t have to let people borrow things from you
Manage your self-respect by learning to say no — and living with the discomfort of saying no. Refusing someone’s repeated requests to borrow things from you (if you think it is a problem) is an excellent way to practice good boundary setting.
Go out and collect your stuff from your people. Consider borrowing something from them to even the score. Be sure and let them take a picture of you holding the goods.
If it works for you, maybe now is the time for you to become a person who borrows from other people.
photo credit: Thank you to “50 Life Hacks to Simplify your World” for the brilliant idea and the photo