If you’ve been looking for a place to support your personal growth in the area of gaining respect by standing up for yourself, then you have reached your final destination.
About Respect Lessons
Respect Lessons are scattered throughout the posts appearing on “Who Do You Respect?”.
I spent five years training in a variety of mixed martial arts. Because of that experience, I now look at interactions between people from the perspective of a sparring session.
When you get into an argument or a debate, you’re trying to force your point of view on another person. Whether you’re aware of it or not, your emotional and physical response will feel very similar to preparing for a physical fight. Knowing this, the lessons are designed to interrupt your usual pattern and give you new — and more effective — options to choose from.
The fighting styles that make up the sport of mixed martial arts (MMA) are wrestling, Brazilian Jiu Jitsu, boxing and kick-boxing.
As my understanding of MMA progressed, I recognized that arguments can be analyzed using the context of a physical fight.
Being able to distinguish how you fight, where you’re strong and where you need more work is the only way to make improvements — and to win more verbal battles.
When you’ve found something that you think you’d like to try, give yourself room to practice getting the new move right — and getting it wrong. New habits take at least 21 days before they start to feel familiar. The idea is to break your normal pattern earlier and earlier to prevent you from landing up in the same place once those familiar verbal battles begin.
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“Friendship- my definition- is built on two things. Respect and trust. Both elements have to be there. And it has to be mutual. You can have respect for someone, but if you don’t have trust, the friendship will crumble.”
― Stieg Larsson, The Girl with the Dragon Tattoo
Everyone is worthy of respect
In 1948, the United Nations created, “The Universal Declaration of Human Rights”.
Reading through the long list of declarations is overwhelming
As a way of honoring the United Nation’s Universal Declaration of Human Rights and narrowing down the options, I’ve chosen five that represent my objective with the DramaGuru Lessons offered on whodoyourespect.com.
The wording is from Gavin Aung’s cartoon poster of United Nation’s Universal Declaration of Human Rights.
My Respect Lessons and other posts are my declaration of how I’m supporting the UN’s mission.
1. No one has the right to torture you. That means physically, emotionally or mentally.
2. You have the right to privacy. No one can interfere with your reputation, family, home or correspondence. No bullying.
3. You have the right to recognition everywhere as a person before the law.Recognition means being acknowledged and treated with kindness.
4. Freedom of Expression: You have the right to free thought and to voice your opinions to others.Imagine feeling free to say what needs to be said, exactly in the way that others need to hear it — with respect, of course.
5. No one has the right to hold you in slavery.Slavery is an interesting word when applied to the complexities of modern life. Decisions to marry, have children, hold a job can sometimes feel like bondage that cannot be escaped.
Now it’s up to you to find a place to get started. Make your own personal declaration to be responsible for:
- gaining and maintaining your self-respect
- protecting other people who are being disrespected by standing up for them
- being respectful of other people and what makes them different from you
photo credit: post-fight Korean Zombie and Jose Aldo, mmafighting.com