UFC fighters watch film on their opponents — looking for weaknesses — before they spend 15 minutes, fighting each other, inside the cage. On a recent episode of “The Millionaire Matchmaker” (hosted by Patti Stanger), UFC fighter, Luke Rockhold, generously provided 15 minutes on the subject of how he treats women.
This looks like a perfect opportunity for a “DramaGuru Breakdown”. Time to analyze male dating behavior!
Ladies, this could be your life with Luke.
Patti is working hard to gain Luke’s agreement about whether he’s serious about being in a relationship leading to marriage. And Luke? Well, he’s just playing. Luke just wants to have fun.
DramaGuru Breakdown: Luke Rockhold (Red) vs Millionaire Matchmaker (Blue)
Red Opponent: a Snake (sneaky), a Pretender.
Blue Opponent: a Hippo (flexible, emotional), a Supporter
Field of Play: on the mat (soft landing)
Problem: No respect!
Warning! Red Opponent has nothing to lose.
- At work, Luke gives his word and honors it.
- He trains hard for his fights, shows up on weight and puts on a good performance.
- Similar to how he shows up on dates
Areas of Weakness: Blue Opponent
- Being supportive of someone who doesn’t support you
- Believing that you’re on the same page with the same agreement
- Not recognizing that the rules apply only to you
- Letting your guard down and allowing your opponent to get too close
Position: The Chameleon – Being Ambiguous
Brazilian Jiu Jitsu (BJJ) players know the importance of getting position before submission. Here’s how you drop the Chameleon position on your opponent:
- I change to match whatever I need to be to have you take down your guard
- I say things that can be taken in two different ways
- I change to match something else (or someone else) as soon as you leave
Saying, “I want to get married some day,” is an ice breaker. If you believe him, you will drop your guard and allow him to get too close, too soon. He improves his position, by making a move, advancing on you, like a hot knife through butter.
Gullible: Easily deceived or duped. Too willing to believe everything other people say.
The Attack: Luke employs “The Eddie” attack with ease
- Looking around for confirmation from the fellas.
- Everyone loves Luke!
- You, the blue opponent, feel isolated, alone, confused and frustrated.
- Shame will either shut you up or — like Patti Stanger — you’ll get loud and attack back with threats that just make Luke laugh even more.
The error in this situation is that Patti is treating Luke like a partner instead of an opponent. Luke never really accepted the partner agreement. Even though he used words that implied that he’s ready to meet his “true” love.
Lesson: Never Let Your Guard Down Around a Snake
Luke Rockhold is a confident UFC fighter. He’s even more confident around the ladies.
On the “Millionaire Matchmaker” TV show, Luke said his longest relationship was about a year. Now, at age 29, after years of playing around, he says he’s looking for the right girl.
After watching him in action, I believe Luke really does have a plan to get married and have kids (like everyone else.)
Based on his charming personality, someone will ignore all the red flags and marry him. But married snakes are still snakes. And other women will still find him charming and difficult to resist.
How can you trust someone who has no respect for you?
Patti Stanger, the host of “Millionaire MatchMaker”, says, “I think Luke is a player, but I’m willing to give him a chance. I just hope he’s serious.” Later, she asks, “But can I trust you?”
If you have to wonder whether you can trust someone, then probably the answer is no.
Is the Rock more trouble than he’s worth?
Kara, the woman who went on the date with him: “I think he’s just used to girls who will give it up.”
Patti: “Is this the narcissist game — where no woman is good enough for you? You’re lying to me!”
But seriously, if you’re always dating or choosing the wrong man, Luke, on-camera with Patti Stanger and the eligible ladies, provides a classic example of why Mr. Wrong is Mr. Wrong.
The Ladies Love Luke
No hearts were broken. Everyone was there to have fun. Kara, the Mixologist, went on a date with Luke. Once was enough for her. Apparently, Candace, who works for Patti, wants to move to the front of Rock’s “lovely ladies” line.
— Patti Stanger (@pattistanger) January 23, 2015
In the world of the game I created called “DramaGuru“, I would classify Luke as a “Pretender”. Pretenders are one step up from being actual opponents. So, in the world of love, anyone acting like a Pretender is not a good long term choice. http://youtu.be/4FDThxzDvHA
What did you learn?
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